You probably wonder, what does this have to do with anything? Well being Chinese and living in America, I have always struggled with meeting beauty standards of not only Americans, but of Asians also. It's pretty hard considering some of our ideals of beauty are completely opposite one another.
From what I have noticed, Asians tend to prefer being petite, super pale, and skinny. In the Chinese cultural, they prefer their women to be smaller and less muscular so that they look delicate and can have a male take care of them. Being white comes from the fact that it makes you look rich. The Chinese believe that the darker you are, the poorer you are. (which is not true!) Basically if you are tan, it means you spend a lot of time outdoors working in the fields.
Asian's Ideal Of Beauty = SNSD
In America, it is almost the complete opposite! In the U.S. , the ideal of beauty is tall (5"7 or taller), tan, and skinny with curves. Americans spend hours tanning on the beach or in tanning booths to be darker. We also always talk about having a bigger chest or a bigger butt to be more attractive.
American's Ideal Of Beauty = Kim Kardashian
Now let me say that I am neither the perfect ideal beauty of American's or Asian's. It sucks sometimes since I get comments from my family asking "why are you so dark," or "why is your butt so big?"
On the opposite hand, I get comments from my friends saying "your so thin, eat more," or "you need to come tanning with me at the beach!"
HUH?? These comments all contradict one another.. How am I suppose to please everyone?
Now after quite a while, I have slowly learned to just be myself and ignore all comments like those. Trust me, it can be hard sometimes, but it's so much better not to be affected by others.
It's impossible to please everyone, so you should just stick to being yourself!
When one is comfortable in their own skin and they feel beautiful, they ARE beautiful!
Have you ever been affected by these ideals of beauty?
How do you keep yourself feeling confident when others are telling you otherwise?